Are you constantly receiving parenting advice you didn’t ask for?
In this video, we talk about:
– The most important factor that should shape how you parent.
– Why you shouldn’t worry about what others think about your parenting.
– The importance of how you feel about your parenting.
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The article I referenced in the video: 3 Ways I Regularly Invade My Teenager’s Privacy
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Please share your best practices for dealing with unwanted parenting advice in the comments below.
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helpful advice! I swear the advice starts coming as soon as I announced I was pregnant
A lot of people think they have the right to spew whatever nonsense they want when it wasn’t asked. I find some of the worst offenders aren’t even parents themselves. LOL! I am not a parent and if one of my friends asks me my opinion I give it to them, but always with the preface that I know I am not a parent so there are some things I can’t relate to, but I might have an opinion or idea to help them out.
oh my gosh, thank you so much for this! everyone thinks i am looking for input when i post even the most basic thing…
Thank you for sharing! I am not a parent but I have had a lot of people try to tell me what to do and I knew better than them and they needed to STFU.
such a good topic when I was anew mum some people were so kind but others so critical so when others have new babies I tell them you are the best parenting tool go with your gut trust yourself and there is no such things as the perfect parent
I try to remember that people are trying to help. Even though I may find it rude, insulting and just plan annoying, I try to listen and smile and then go on my way.
Thank u for sharing i need it i enjoy video
good video. I just nod politely and smile.
I was watching the news last week, and there was a child screaming his/her head off while in line at a store, and the mother wasn’t doing anything. And then, a woman in another line started yelling “Shut Up!” to the screaming child. Now, the news only showed that clip, and apparently there was a lot of feedback on Twitter about this incident. I would probably feel the same way as the woman…but, I would never say anything!!!
Great advice! Thank you very much 🙂
Just about everyone can relate to this video. I think that the only person you should consider regarding parenting is yourself.
People are always throwing in their two cents about how you should raise your children, or what to do in a specific situation. The best thing to do, is listen, smile, and just continue on with your own parenting decision!! Sometimes unwanted advice is given with the best of intentions!
I love this! I don’t give parenting advice to anyone who doesn’t ask. Some mother at my daughters school was trying to tell me what to feed my children! I think sometimes its best to keep your advice to yourself!
I have such a strong personality that I don’t really get much advice from others when it comes to parenting. I’ve always been a very hands on Mom and I’m very protective of my kids. The only person trying to help me in this journey is my 3 year old. I frequently remind her that Dad and I got this.
Nobody knows your children better than you, so you parenting according to their needs.
Just shared on twitter! Such wonderful advice!
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Thanks so much Jaclyn!
Hi
Since my sister became a mother, almost 4 years ago…and the fact that our mother was a kindergarten teacher…my mom is ALWAYS giving unwanted/un-needed advice to my sister! It’s not even my son, but it bothers me! Everyone is entitled to raise their child the way they want…and my sister is doing an awesome job at it…and yet, my mom is constantly giving her advice on how, why, when things should be done. I understand where she’s coming from…just wanting to help…but its annoying! We love our moms dearly, so its hard to criticize her critiques on child rearing.
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Hi Kristin – That’s definitely a tough one. It can be so difficult to deal with parents who are a little pushy with the unwanted advice. :-/.
My mother in law has this saying “You do you and I’ll do me”. I think that’s pretty spot on. You cannot please everyone, by far. So why try? Right? As long as your children are healthy and SAFE, everyone has the right to do what they feel is best. I usually try to acknowledge people’s opinions on my parenting and then I’ll simply say “well, that’s fine for you but I don’t agree with that”. and I may or may not go into why. It’ all depends on the situation and the person. Sometimes it’s one of those things though where you just can’t say anything right to that person and at that point you just have to learn when to walk away. It’s not healthy for YOU to sit there and open yourself up to listening to it if it’s negative, and can only do YOU harm. Which isn’t good. So, do what you need and feel is right, I totally agree!
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I couldn’t agree more! You shouldn’t engage in negative situations. I love your mother-in-law’s saying! ^5
I have a hard time with this because my mother is often trying to give me advice. The bad part is that she does this in front of my children. We have had talks and I have explained to her how this bothers me. I think it is best to let that person know how you feel.
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I completely agree with that Meghan! It’s very important to let that person know how you feel and not keep it bottled up inside.
I will accept unwanted advice kindly and then usually just forget about it right away lol!! We all have our own way of doing things and while some opinions are great to have, we shouldn’t hold people to doing things “our way”.
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Agree Amber! It’s not cool to try and force others into your way of doing things.
My son is 22 and I still get unwanted parenting advice, especially from my mother. I used to get it a lot when my son was little and I handled by politely explaining that some of our methods were due because of our son being a preemie. As he got older, I just smiled and ignored any unwanted parenting advice. It amazes me this unwanted parenting advice comes from people who do not have children, have not raised children in over 30 years or are not even married. 🙂
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So true Betsy! :-).
Sometimes it can be someone who tries to give you advice that they don’t follow themselves. Thanks for all the tips.
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I’ve seen that a lot Meghan!
I’m glad you found it useful. :).
this is a very great article i so agree
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Thanks Krystel!
Hahaha. Thank you for this great advice! <3
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I’m so glad it was useful! :).
Such great advice. You do videos so well. Unwanted is totally different from wanted.. such a huge difference!
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Thank you Starla! :-).
I love this! I told my parents an inlaws very early on in my pregnancy that we respected their opinions and would listen to all advice but would make the choices that we thought were best for us and for our family whether or not we used their advice. It seemed to work really well. We still get some people giving advice but we just ignore it or say why it doesn’t work for us and say “that’s great that it worked for you” and leave it at that.
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Thanks Joline! I like that method – acknowledging that it worked for them and that’s great and then move along.
Both of my parents have passed away. I would give anything now to hear them give me some advice. But back in the day my Dad could be a little overbearing with advice.
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Hi Mary, I’m sorry to hear your parents are no longer with you. Our parents certainly are some of the biggest sources of advice – wanted & unwanted.
I love this! I usually just nod my head and pretend like I’m listening!
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Haha, I’m going to try that next time! :-).
“Thank you, I will consider your advice”. And then go on your way.
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Great way to handle it Sarah!
I learned years ago to simply listen to advice, and then thank the person giving it – I know it is usually intended to be kind and helpful. However, I don’t have to follow it – I always make my own decisions! 😉
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So true Theresa! Just because advice is given doesn’t mean you’re required to follow it.
I agree, unsolicited advice is the worst, I try to keep my opinion to myself unless someone asks for it!
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Same here – although I give a lot of general advice on the blog, I don’t dare tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do when it comes to raising their child (unless asked of course!).
Almost anyone can use this video, it seems there is always someone telling parents or even those without parents the “proper” way to raise their kids or to do things in general.
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I agree Sara – it’s a wide-reaching issue that many of us deal with.
It never ceases to amaze me how often people will tell you how to live your life, raise your kids, etc. Most of the time it is people who don’t even know that person very well, but they think they have all the answers. Thanks for this video I know there are so many mothers out there who can use it.
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Thanks Rita. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video! :).