Why Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis Are My Favorite Celebrity Parents

I was doing some internet research {ok yea, you got me… I was on Facebook… haha} and came across this article on Yahoo! Celebrity where Ashton Kutcher is praising new mom Mila Kunis for her awesome parenting.

Awww, so cute.

BUT, that’s not why they’re my favorite celebrity parents.

This is:

“Yes, it’s just the two of us. It’s awesome. It’s unbelievable,” he said. “We just want to know our kid. We want to be the people that know what to do when the baby’s crying to make the baby not cry anymore. … We want to be emotionally in touch with her. I think the only way to do that is by being the one who’s there.”

Why Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis are my favorite celebrity parents

To know your kid…

In the article, Ashton Kutcher talks about how he and Mila Kunis don’t have a nanny because they want to know their kid.

What. Like, y’all actually want to know your kid?! You mean, like the rest of us poor folks have to do. It’s unheard of.

Don’t get me wrong, there are times where I’ve wished for a clone, nanny, alien – anyone – to come and help me take care of these little people. It’s work. Lots of work.

But, I’d never want someone else to care for my child and be closer to him or her than I am.

That’s what I feel like can get lost in the world of fame and fortune. Always on the road, always busy hustling, and then someone else ends up raising the kid(s). It’s not fair to the parent or the child.

You can’t get to know someone – especially a baby – if you aren’t there {click to tweet}. It’s just the way that it is. With little, and big, people. You have to spend time with someone in order to know their needs, wants, quirks, and all the other little things that make up their personality.

How will you know the hungry cry from the bored cry if you’re hardly around? You won’t. And it’s nice to see a celebrity couple who appreciates something this basic and fundamental about parenting.

That you actually have to … parent.

That time I missed out…

If ever there were a time that I had some mom guilt {a rare occasion}, it was when I had my third – and last – child. I was fortunate to stay home with my now teenager for the first two years. With my daughter, I was with her for 12 weeks before I had to get back to work full-time. With my third, I had to go back to work just 4 weeks after he was born {I just started at a new job and had zero leave}.

Talk. About. Hard. Times.

I was so jealous of my mom {who so lovingly took care of him for me during the day} because she knew him better than I did. She was instructing me on his different needs. At times, I felt like the babysitter. Trying to fumble through and figure it out while hoping he’d like me and I’d know what he needed.

So I know the value of being there. Of being in touch with my child. It’s not always feasible though – especially when you’re a single parent. You have to work so you can’t be there around the clock. And you have to leave your child in someone else’s capable hands.

But there’s a difference between having a nanny living in your house and doing the job of mom {even when you’re there} and leaving your child with a daycare provider while you go to your 9-5.

So anyhow, I thought it was nice to see how they want to be parents. And do what us normal folks have to do. Which is not just pop out a baby and hand it over to the nanny.

I want to hear from you!
What do you think about Ashton and Mila deciding to parent hands-on? Please leave me a comment below and let’s have a discussion.

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Comments 37

  1. It is so nice that they want to raise their child themselves. It is such a blessing to be able to do this. You are right though, some of us have to work. We don’t have a choice. We spend as much time with our children as we can. THank you for sharing I enjoyed this article

  2. It is so nice that they want to raise their child themselves. It is such a blessing to be able to do this. You are right though, some of us have to work. We don’t have a choice. We spend as much time with our children as we can. THank you for sharing

  3. I think it is wonderful that they want to be hands on parents. It is a sad feeling when you miss out on those first moments of your child’s life. There are many first that I have missed due to work.

  4. Wow. This really was in interesting post in which I was able to peek into you and Ashton K and Mila’s thoughts on being a parent. He really seems like an amazing person! I hope that raise their baby in the kind and loving manner for which they have publically pledged to do so in! One of THE BEST things you can give to your child is your TIME! Thank you for sharing!

  5. I agree with you all the way, I love them together, but as parents they are so awesome, I love watching her interviews.

  6. I think it’s wonderful that they are raising their daughter and not nannies. I wish more were that way. Money can’t buy the happiness of a child !!

  7. You shared a quote the other day on your FB page, and that really hit home for me. Sometime I feel like I don’t know my oldest quite like I want to because she’s such an introvert, but the key with her is time. Need to do more of that with just me and her! Great reminder. I hope they really DO that with their kid too, btw. 🙂

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  8. Not having a nanny does sound really good especially that I feel like my kids’ childhood is flying by so fast but it will be very hard for us at the moment since my husband and I work full time. But what they are doing sounds inspiring! Especially that they can very well afford it!

  9. Kudos to Mila and Ashton for vowing to be there for their child! As a stay at home mom myself, I know how hard it can be; however, I am rewarded a hundred fold for the sacrifice. The struggle of the juggle is real though!

    I can relate to your story about your newborn. My youngest son took his very first steps when I was not a home. It broke my heart at first, I felt like the worst mom ever. After being at home with him day in and day out, my husband gave me a break to go shopping and I’ll be darned if that boy didn’t take his first steps while I was out! Hubby did record it for me but it still hurt.

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  10. I think it’s cool that Aston and Mila aren’t getting a nanny. Kind of unheard of for stars nowadays. I think if you can stay home with your kid, it’s great! But I realize not everyone is able to do that financially.

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  11. Well I have three and the last one is where I too feel guilty. The first two I worked part time and was able to come home after a 4 hour shift and be there. With the last one, I work full time and get a few hours a day with him. I wish it was different. I really do! I think its great what Aston and his wife are doing.

  12. Good post. That is my issues too and is why I am waiting until I know for sure that i can be there totally and fully for a child to start a family. It is encouraging to see and know that when it comes to things like child bearing, a lot of celebs are just like us common folk! #blmgirl

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  13. I agree with you 100%! I think their viewpoint and stance is awesome. I read through your post like it was a convo between us, I was verbally agreeing (“I know right!”) like you could hear me. Lol. I’m so passionate about people spending time with their kids and knowing their kids. I know too many who put the responsibilty off on the child’s grandparents. #blmgirls

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      Lol I love that Britney! I always imagine I’m having a conversation while I’m writing so I appreciate that feedback. :). And yes, me too – children need us to be there. If you don’t plan on that, no point in having them!

  14. I love this! I’m all about being a hands on parent. I’ve been that way with my kids from day one. No point in having them if you aren’t going to invest the time. With so luxuries of Hollywood it is very refreshing to read their approach. They could buy 5 mom’s for their child if they wanted. Much respect to them, parenting isn’t easy but its worth it for sure.

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  15. Wow, I absolutely love their take on parenting! And of course because they are celebrities and could afford any nanny they wanted, it’s an even bigger deal. I think that is truly special and I’m happy for them. I wish more people would take that stance. My children have never been in a daycare because even when I was working FT, my husband and I decided that having them with us was the most important thing. So he would work the overnight shift and stay home with them during the day when I went to work. It was difficult, but it was worth it.

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      That’s what makes me love them too – that they could just pawn the kid off like most other celebrities seem to do, but they are clear about wanting to be there and know their child… that’s great that you’ll were able to make that work! I had a wonderful care provider who helped with my three {and my younger sister before them}… she was more like family, and I’ve always felt so grateful to have had someone like her… the kids still talk about and miss their “Aunt” Shirley..:-)

  16. I think it’s refreshing to see celebrity parents, actually wanting to be parents. Kids grow so quickly–it’s important to be there for the moments that matter. I was at work when my oldest son took his first steps, and I still regret it.

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  17. I can totally relate to this!
    I had my first child and had to make ends meet by going to work and leaving her at about 4 months old. I was upset but couldn’t do anything about it. I needed money.
    I just tried my best to spend time with her when I got home.

    My son, he got me for about three years. I was working at first and then decided to quit to spend time with him. I was able to work on my business and be home with him everyday. I didn’t do it right the first time but I learned from that and make sure that when I “planned” to have another child and yes, he was planned, that I would make sure I research every aspect of having him so I can stay home with him.

    Thanks for sharing.
    Khloe G.

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  18. I think it is great they want to do that. Although they are both working parents and if they need some help that is OK too. I think they are leaning more towards how some people just hand their kids over to a nanny or babysitter and only act like a parent when they want.

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  19. Yes, I love them too. It’s refreshing to hear celebrity couples talking in this way. I would never want to turn over all the parenting responsibilities to someone else. Having help is okay, but there is a fine line between getting support and passing on the role of mother and father to someone else.

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