The Joy of Self-Love {and My SwimSuit Style} via @carinkilbyclark

The Joy of Self-Love {and My Swimsuit Style}

The Joy of Self-Love #MySwimsuitStyle via @carinkilbyclark

I’m excited {and a little terrified} to participate in the #MySwimsuitStyle challenge hosted by my friend MarΓ­a JosΓ© Ovalle of Very Busy MamΓ‘.

When she emailed me asking if I’d join in my first thought was HELL YEA!

And then my second thought was WHY DID I SAY YES TO THIS?! Lol.

But I’m all about self-love and positive body image so here I am. If even one person is inspired by this post then I’ll consider it a job well-done. πŸ˜‰

It’s a love/hate, but mostly love thing

I don’t hate my body. But, I don’t feel comfortable in it either. That’s mostly because I know it’s not in the state it should be. And I have nobody to blame for that but myself.

I’m about 50 pounds over weight. I weigh more now than I did when my third child {who’s now 8} was just a few months old. I called it baby weight for the first 7 years. Now, it’s just mom weight. It’s life weight. It’s I-made-the-decision-to-eat-cake-and-damn-it-was-good-let-me-get-another-slice weight.

In the last year, I’ve really come to terms with the fact that I can change my body if I want to, and obviously I’m just not there yet. I will be. I’m taking tiny little ant-sized baby steps towards a healthier weight. But in the meantime, I’m going to live it up.

And in the summer, I’m going to proudly rock my swimsuit.

The Joy of Self-Love #MySwimsuitStyle via @carinkilbyclark

Side Note: I was somewhat amused that I had this little photo shoot on my porch instead of going to the pool… which is literally across the street… as you can see in the background. #lazy #iownit

The joy of self-love

It’s fun to love yourself. It’s the stuff that happy days are made of. Life is too short to be concerned with the flabby arms, thunder thighs, and “Tina the talking tummy” {shout out to White Chicks, one of the funniest movies ever!}.

What I’ve learned over the past few years – through getting to know so many women around the world – is that we ALL tend to focus on what we perceive as our faults or things that we are embarrassed by.

But we need to stop it!

Just let go and enjoy this beautiful {over in the blink of an eye} life.

So here’s to the joy of self-love.

The Joy of Self-Love #MySwimsuitStyle via @carinkilbyclark

Welcome to the #MySwimsuitStyle challenge hosted by María José Ovalle of Very Busy Mamá and co-hosted by the fabulous Katie Reed of A Mother Thing, Reesa Lewandowski of Momma Lew, Vicky Mason of The Mummy Chronicles and Andrea Summers of Momma in Flip Flops.

WHY: To promote and encourage self LOVE not self loathing this summer!

Join by showing off YOUR swimsuit style, let go of your insecurities and let’s make a SPLASH this summer.

HOW: Write a blog, or simply post a picture in your swimsuit to Facebook, Instagram or Twitter using
#MySwimsuitStyle, submit your link below and visit participants leaving positive comments!

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  1. This is a great article. I use to be 93 pounds heavier, but I still feel like “the fat girl”. I don’t think I will ever be comfortable in my own skin. I want to be though. It’s gonna take some time for me to get past my hangups, and start loving/accepting me for me. πŸ™‚

  2. You sound like me in the weight department. I know God doesn’t make junk but I don’t always feel good about me. Thank you for sharing this article

  3. When I was younger, I took swimming lessons all the way up to becoming a life guard! I never actually did that, because by that time I was 16, and wanting to hang around with my friends! I do miss the water! I only wear a swimsuit if I’m on vacation, or in my father’s pool! Otherwise, I don’t like to!

  4. That suit looks so nice on you. I am right there with you about the weight. I need to lose about twenty five pounds but I just haven’t done it yet. It is not as easy since I am getting older. Thank you for sharing

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  5. That swimsuit is super cuite! I wonder what has made most of us so paranoid about wearing one. I mean the reality is that most of us do not look like a swimsuit model but still look great in one.

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  6. That swimsuit looks great on you. I need a new swimsuit and keep putting it off because of weight gain. I am just going to go do it becuse I don’t want to miss the whole swimming season trying to lose weight.

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  7. I hate my swimsuit! It’s a two-piece….and the top rises – exposing my belly when I get in the water! I need a full piece, or a 2-piece that stays when its supposed to! Otherwise, I really don’t care what other people think of me!!!

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  8. Girl, you look awesome! Props to you and you definitely look great! Self love is so very important and so awesome! xo

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  9. You look fantastic! It’s not about how much you weigh, it’s about your attitude and presence!!! And, girl, you have it! I don’t feel comfortable in my skin either, but if I am going to have fun during the summer, I just tell myself..”I don’t care what I look like!”

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  10. CARIN – can I tell you HOW happy I was when you said yes? Because getting people to agree was like pulling teeth! If I saw you I’d think “she looks good” honesty…don’t you see other women who may be bigger chested than you, or have more cellulite or whatever and you think “she STILL looks good” and it makes you question yourself. It’s an exercise in self confidence…it takes time but something like THIS is a good step forward. Thank you friend…honesty. love you! xoxo

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  11. I love this post on so many levels. As a plus sized girl, it is so hard to get past some of the anxiety with swimsuits sometimes but it is important to love youself above it all. That suit you had on was cute and flattering and the whole post was inspirational (and I love cake too!).

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  12. You are truly brave. I don’t think I would have the confidence to show off my body. I hope I can also be as confident as you.

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  13. Now this is my kind of swimsuit! You look very pretty too. Oh and I feel you on that cake thing. YOu and I are in the same boat. I love this challenge though.

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  14. I was the skinny girl my whole life until while in the last several years I’ve gained about 100 pounds. I am so self conscious I don’t wear many nicer clothes and stick to dark colors like black. I never would’ve even thought about a swinsuit and appreciate your post.

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  15. You look great, Carin! And I love your swimsuit! I’ve lived in a beach town for years, but since having my third child I haven’t been too thrilled about heading to the water in a bathing suit. I need to stop self-loathing, grab my bathing suit, and hit the water while I still can. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being transparent in this post.

    xo,
    Drea

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  16. Love this. I would wear it too something to cover up this stomach of mine is key. I have no confidence in my own body and I need to get out of that.

  17. You look great Carin! At least you went outside for your pic. I did it in the safety of my home. Maybe next time I’ll be brave enough to do it in the sunlight. Ha! Great job doing something that is not easy!

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      Thanks! I was going to do it inside at first, it was my daughter’s suggestion to go to the porch. It was funny to see all the cars slowing down and giving confused looks. I was like “what? can’t a girl have a swimsuit photo shoot on the porch?!” Haha

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