3 Ways To Lose Friends Yesterday

Want to lose some friends? Do you have a few pesky friends that you’d like to get rid of? A friend who isn’t taking the hint that they just aren’t that important to you? Or perhaps a friend who you’ve outgrown but just don’t know how to let them down easy?

Well I have the solution for you! Follow any of these 3 methods and those friendships will surely end with the quickness – like, yesterday…

Are you ready to lose some friends?

1) Lose friends by being consistently inconsistent. You know those friends who are only reliable for one thing: their unreliability? Become one. Start RSVP’ing and not showing up. Say you will call and don’t. Commit to brunch next Sunday and simply forget to attend. Have an excuse every time you are supposed to do something for your friend and don’t. Make sure you always have other plans that you conveniently forget to mention. Or better yet, promise to ‘fit it all in’ and then complain about how you couldn’t and that’s why you didn’t make it.

2) Lose friends by showing how much you don’t care. A surefire way to deliver the “you mean nothing to me” message is to show it every chance you get – especially when she calls to catch up. Dominate the conversation with the updates of what’s going on in your life. Talk so long and about so much that she forgets why she even called you. Leave her wondering why the hell she even bothers because you are obviously not interested in her or her life; so disinterested that you don’t take the time to call and check up on her or offer her a listening ear when she calls you.

3) Lose friends by leaving her behind. Don’t want a friend in your life anymore? Leave her behind. Forget all about her. Don’t invite her to your events, go out with your other friends often (make sure to check-in on Facebook and Instagram lots of pics so she’ll get the message), and totally exclude her from anything and everything that she may have formerly been a part of. If this doesn’t send a very clear message, nothing will.

In case you were wondering why I am telling you how to lose friends – Yes, I was being sarcastic. Here’s why.

I am tired of these types of “friends;” aren’t you? I notice that as time goes on, and I get older, I am less and less interested in playing these stupid games – And I for damn sure have zero interest in maintaining a one-way friendship. I try, I TRY HARD, to practice the 100/0 principle, but friends who act like what I’ve described above make it damn near impossible to do so.

I am a good friend and I deserve friends who will be good to me in return. If you don’t want to be a part of my life, just say so! I am not holding any friends hostage nor am I begging for someone to care; if being a friend to me is that hard, then I release you. So, since some of my friends read this blog (and I love those supportive friends who actually take the time to check me out and see what I’m talking about), if you are acting like this – and those of you who are, know who you are – you will be losing a friend (that would be me). Like, yesterday! Love you always.

I want to hear from you!

Do you have any friends who demonstrate these retarded traits? How do you handle being friends with that person? Please leave me a comment below and let’s have a discussion.

Comments 17

  1. I had a “best friend” betray me of 29 years of friendship so i know what is it like to lose someone you care about but at the same time they cant be trusted ya gotta let em go

  2. I don’t like the game playing either. I would rather have one good and true friend than alot of fair weather friends. Thank you for this great article

  3. I think a lot of people that do those things have social anxiety and I know this because I am like that. It is hard for me to be friends with people because of that and even why I do try I end up finding people even worse than me. It is something that I am always working on.

  4. I would like to thank you for the advice, I feel as though I have known you for a long time when I read your work. I appreciate your integrity.

  5. The second and third ways to lose friend is obvious but the first way is something people don’t quite understand sometimes. I definitely don’t feel that my friends are actual “friends” when they flake on me all the time!

  6. I have a long history of making “friends” too easily and putting too much trust in them. Though I am a man, I really believe you have some great ideas…but I am a softie who just can’t say no.

  7. I’ve had friends like this. At the same time, I can be this friend without realizing it. Thankfully, the friends I do have that are like this, and the fact that I can be like this, we all realize we’re not doing this on purpose. We get so busy with life and we all have horrible memories, we don’t realize how long it’s been since we haven’t actually talked on the phone. We text, we message on facebook, or we ask questions in a comment about whatever. We forget about plans, not on purpose, things come up with our children and we truly forget to reschedule whatever it was that we had planned. What’s amazing is that when we finally get together, it’s like we were never apart. 🙂

    At the same time, there are those friends I’ve had who make plans and leave me stranded. Don’t call or text. I’ve ALWAYS called or text when I’m not able to make it for whatever reason. So that does irk me. Or they always cancel, it’s always the same reason, etc. After a while, I give up. It’s not the same as the first set of friends… those friends are different. If that makes any sense.

  8. I’ve had those one sided friendships. Maybe didn’t start out that way. I’ll gladly take accountability- as it only continues if you allow it. Not anymore. our description nailed it 100% . I am done with that toxic waste load. Might I add- these are the same friends that will ask you help them move time and time again and you gladly do it and the ONE time you move- no help- and that’s with WEEKS if not months in advance because you have your life together. OH and don’t forget- these toxic biotches know exactly how to reel you in at least once or twice because you are a genuine friend regardless (when you are still naive) because let’s face it- a small part of you enjoys some part of the friendship or at least at one time did. But then when YOU decide to take control and distance yourself- WHOOOOA Nelly- suddenly you’re the biotch with issues, She’s suddenly in your face ALL The time trying to dictate that you need friends (yeah- just not her) when it’s so obvious she has rejection issues and you wish you had the patience to stick around and be that friend she obviously needs but no dice. I’ve been burned too many times by that selfish witch and her toxic cloud. NOpe. Good luck and so long. Sometimes it’s better to walk away. This is why I prefer dogs to people.
    What did I Learn? People have to earn friendship- it’s a 2 way street.

    Great Article

  9. I certainly know what this is like, matter fact I have a friend I need to shake now. I don’t know how to say you’ve changed and the friendship has suffered as a result of. I was plan C or not even on the invite list at all. I saw a lot of pics on FB/Instagrams and all. Funny right. Now that she suddenly has time on her hands and wants to hang. Its too little to late though.

    I’m busy with life, a business, a blog and friends that value me as much as I value them.

  10. I had to eliminate some friends this year too. It was awkward at first, but had to come to terms that both parties should be comfortable in a friendship. It’s not one sided type of thing.

  11. I hear you. I just had someone I really thought was a close friend (one of only three I have/had) book a cruise for her and her kids the same week as my wedding (not even a family cruise – the dad is staying behind). She could have chose any date this summer to do it, but that was the one she chose. And she’s known the date of my wedding for two months, plus she just asked me last week when it was. I almost feel like this was deliberate.

  12. I like this topic bc I can relate to it as I’ve spent the past year unemployed and homeless. My circle of friends depleted down to two loyal friends that was always there for me. It’s pretty sad to think that the ones you think will stay actually go vice versa. Oh well, powerful lesson in a blessing called truth.

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      Hi Cam! It can definitely be a disappointment when the people we think will have our backs are nowhere to be found when we really need them. I have learned to just accept that people are who they are and if I don’t like it, I don’t have to know them! Thanks so much for stopping by:)

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