If you’re anything like me, you
waste spend quality time on Facebook daily. And if that’s the case, chances are you saw this viral story floating around the web.
In short, a mom (Kyesha) posted to Facebook that she was looking for another mom who was at the same movie as her two daughters and son. Her daughters disrespected this other mom, as reported to her by her son, and she wanted to apologize to the mom who’s movie night was ruined by her daughters’ misbehavior.
Here’s the Facebook post:
Since this focus of this post is to discuss the three vital parenting lessons we all need to learn from this mom’s viral post, you can get a more in-depth rundown of the happenings with this story by checking out this article on Yahoo! (and in case you’re wondering, yes she did track the mom down and all was made right).
Let’s get to it. Here are the 3 vital parenting lessons learned from this mom’s viral Facebook post.
- You must be the example.
- Accountability matters.
- Your child’s negative behavior must have consequences.
The first vital parenting lesson we can all learn from this is how loudly our actions speak. The best thing about Kyesha’s post and her general response to this situation was the example she set for her children. I consistently advocate for the importance of being your child’s example, because our children are watching. They are looking to us as parents to show them. With this post, she has shown her children that there are still people who are willing to go the extra mile to do what’s right while also showing them how’s it’s done.
The next vital parenting lesson we can all learn from this is that accountability matters. There are many different ways that Kyesha could have reacted. Instead of brushing it off or treating it as a joke, she made herself accountable. She took ownership of the situation and sought to make things right for that mom. She accepted responsibility for her children’s misbehavior and was there for another parent. She became the village. This is something I wish all parents would do for each other far more often.
The last vital parenting lesson we can all learn from this is that your child’s negative behavior should not go unpunished – especially when it happens while they’re away from you. I loved that she had her daughters write apology letters AND pay for their next movie night. I’d bet that these girls won’t be acting up anytime soon, and they certainly won’t have any illusions about what will happen when they do. This is important because we can’t be with our kids 24-7 so they need to know that there are consequences for their behavior, even if you aren’t there to personally witness it.
I’d guess that Kyesha is feeling pretty darn good about her parenting skills right about now. As well she should be. 🙂
I want to hear from you!
What do you think about how this mom handled the situation? Would you have done the same? Please join the discussion by adding your thoughts in the comments below.