I was catching up on some reading and came across this article, Having Three Children Is Most Stressful For Mom, Survey Finds. My first thought was “Yes, I am not alone!” See, I have felt the pain of having three children for the past 6+ years. Going from one to two didn’t see this stressful. I kept wondering why the addition of a third sent me to crazytown – with all bags packed for a long, long stay. Reading this article definitely made me feel validated; that I am not the only one who finds three children to be the most stressful number to have.
From two kids to three
Two kids were great. They kept each other company. They played together. They seemed to get along better. Pick ups and drop offs weren’t as hectic and I was able to fit all activities into my schedule with ease. With my third, there have been countless, endless arguments – over what to watch, where someone’s arm is placed while in the car, where to sit on the couch, who should get the last piece of chicken. Really? Why do they have to fight so much? And then there’s all the activities. With my younger son set to start football next year I am looking into cloning myself; since that is the only possible way I will be able to manager all the taxi duties.
They are trying to drive me crazy
Sometimes I think they are little parent terrorists that exist solely to stress me out. But I know that is not why they are here. Or is it? After I’ve asked them to stop yelling at each other for at least five minutes or begged them to just get along – for the one hundredth time – I start to wonder if they ever want to make me happy. I know they love me and appreciate that I take excellent care of them, but can’t they show it by making peace with each other and not making my life so stressful..?
Lowering the stress of having three kids
To reduce the stress (that which I can control) I started to accept that I just can’t do it all. I can’t make every event. I can’t hold every hand. I can’t be in all places. I also can’t make my kids get along. They are going to fight-fuss-argue and seem to hate each other at times, but it’s just a sibling thing. They also love hard and are the first take up for each other. At the end of the day, all will be okay.
I want to hear from you!
What do you find to be the most stressful number of children? Please leave me a comment below and let’s have a discussion.