Finding yourself is not such a secret once you understand the truth about the search for self. How many times have you heard someone say “I’m trying to find myself?” Whenever I hear that phrase I wonder where does one look for themselves – Under the couch, behind the laundry room door, or in the closet? How exactly do you plan to discover who you are? By waking up one day and magically appearing to yourself? When I ask these questions is seems so silly that someone would ever form their lips to say that they are looking for themselves in the first place.
I challenge you to sit and think for a minute. Ponder who you are and what you mean to yourself. What you mean to the people around you: family, friends, co-workers, business partners. Think about the qualities, the personality, that makes you the person that you are. IF this is not the person who you want to be, because you are working on finding yourself, then what is stopping you from being that person today? The endless search is quite time-consuming and has no resolution; because the self is not something you find, it’s something that you create. Tweet this
This quote resonates with me because I used to be one of those people who was on the endless search – finding myself – with absolutely no success. I kept thinking that I would just be who I was naturally; but what I would be, I had no clue. I did not yet understand the concept of creating the self I wanted to be, I did not realize that I had so much power. It was one of my countless self-help book searches that led me to “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One
” by Dr. Joe Dispenza. This book changed my reality of self. I learned how to tell my brain what to do, and not allow my brain to stay on autopilot. It’s not as easy, or as hard, as it sounds – it can be done. You can be the person you want to be now; no more searching, start creating. Tweet this
There is one statement in the first pages of the book that stuck accord with me right away:
“The fact is that we are all blessed; we can reap the benefits of our constructive efforts. We don’t have to settle for our present reality; we can create a new one, whenever we choose to. We all have that ability, because for better or worse, our thoughts do influence our lives.”
It starts in your mind. Your thoughts of who you are is what creates the person that you will be. It’s not something external, or that you have to find. I know that I am a work in progress. We all are. Once I accepted the fact that I will always be moving towards constantly shifting personality goals, and that’s OK, I felt a weight lifted. I don’t have to keep looking, on the endless finding yourself journey, or get frustrated when I am not who I want to be quite yet. The truth is, every time I reach a goal, a new one forms. It’s an ever-changing wheel in motion and I am creating a wonderful me along the way.
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