9 Calming Strategies That Help You Find Inner Peace via @carinkilbyclark

9 Calming Strategies That Help You Find Inner Peace

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”
― Dalai Lama XIV

Finding inner peace in the modern world can be a significant challenge for busy moms.

Everything about modern society feels like an obstacle to experiencing peace of mind – and when you tack on the constant responsibilities of motherhood it can feel like peace is forever out of reach.

But there are ways to find and maintain inner peace. Inner peace is a choice, and many of your habits determine how much peace you experience in your daily life.

9 Calming Strategies That Help You Find Inner Peace via @carinkilbyclark

Use these 9 strategies to experience inner peace and enjoy life on a deeper, more satisfying level:


1. Focus your attention on those things you can control.

Why worry about those things you can’t control? It sours your mood and makes you less capable.

* Literally ask yourself, “Is this something I can control? Will worrying be beneficial in any way?”

2. Spend time in nature.

The original humans didn’t live in a 3-bedroom ranch and eat microwave popcorn. Take a long walk in the park or spend a weekend camping. You’ll feel dramatically different compared to sitting in a building 24 hours every day. There’s something peaceful about spending time among the birds and the trees.

3. Be true to yourself.

Few things are more disconcerting than living a life you weren’t meant to live. It continuously gnaws away at you. Live a life that’s congruent with your values.

* It’s too easy to allow society dictate your choices. You don’t have to spend your life on a career that’s impressive to others. You don’t have to chase after a fancy house. Make your own decisions about what’s most important to you.

4. Eat nutritiously.

You might not realize how bad you feel because you’re so used to it. Try eating the way you know you should for just a week. Note the change in how you feel.

* Now try eating some junk food and see what happens to your mood and your overall sense of well-being. You’ll feel like you’ve been run over by truck.

5. Exercise regularly.

Have you ever noticed how great you feel as you’re walking out of the gym? Exercise feels good, and you feel good about yourself for doing it.

6. Do something nice for someone else.

This is a great way to take your focus off of yourself. You become more aware that others are struggling, too. When you are kind, you receive kindness in return. You’ll also feel a sense of pride and satisfaction when you help someone else.

7. Be assertive.

Be open and forward with your needs and desires. You’re not only more likely to get what you want, but you’ll also feel more in control of your life. Being passive results in having less control, which runs counter to inner peace. Be bold without being aggressive.

8. Meditate.

Meditation is calming. It also helps to see life and its challenges more accurately. Things are often better than they seem. Meditation can prevent your mind from making a situation seem worse than it really is.

9. Avoid trying to change others.

You’ll have as much success trying to change the weather. It’s hard enough to change yourself. How will you ever manage to change someone else?

It’s so important to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Eat properly, exercise, and be true to yourself. Be assertive and take control of your life.

All the accomplishments in the world can’t replace inner peace. Avoid chasing after those things that society has determined to be important. Decide for yourself and live the life you were meant to live.

I want to hear from you!

What strategies do you use to maintain your inner peace? Please join the discussion in the comments section below.


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  1. I really enjoyed this article. I have been working on this in my life for several months now. God is slowly chipping away the rough edges. I have been exercising for the past three months which really helps me. I have really been working on listening and doing Gods will in my life. I have gained alot of peace but I have a ways to go. Thank you for sharing these great tips.

  2. You give really good suggestions especially the first one,,,,”. Focus your attention on those things you can control”.When I learned to do this I was so much happier. Thanks.

  3. I am using 2017 to focus on me. To focus on finding a peace that can be less likely to fade as the day goes on. I love the idea about spending more time in nature. That is, for me, the one place that no matter what I feel more connected to my peace. I feel more balanced, more thankful, more zen. I will remember that when I start my new year.

  4. I actually do about 7 of your 9 listed ideas, because they bring me joy in my everyday life…I should be doing all 9….thank you for your informative and interesting emails

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  5. Thank you! It can be hard to find peace some days. It always helps to have a list to remind you of ways to make yourself refocus.

  6. I am glad I took a walk on your page carin, I so needed to read this , Its something I am trying to do every day for the better and healthier me.

  7. Great ideas, it’s easy to lose yourself in the stress of life. Also amazing what eating better and taking time for yourself can do.

  8. Spending time in nature definitely helps me to destress. When I’m feeling overwhelmed I try to go for a walk or to sit outside near the river and just enjoy the calmness of nature.

  9. My daughter starts Kindergarten tomorrow and I have literally been all over the place. Not peaceful at all. I know I am going to throw myself into the gym to calm myself down.

  10. Thank you for this list. I’m glad I saw this today since I’m having a hard time lately. I am going to try mediation.

  11. These are all great strategies to find inner peace. It is so important for everyone to avoid trying to change anyone because it really does add nothing but stress and anxiety in your life. I usually go for a walk with my dog to find inner peace. Thanks for sharing the strategies.

  12. I need to use these strategies soon. I am not finding my inner peace these days. Between summer vacation and teenager angst I need to start meditating soon.

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