I dream it, I work hard, I grind ’til I own it – Beyoncé, Formation
Beyoncé just Beyoncé’d us… yes, in true Queen B fashion she dropped a surprise new song and video today. Check it out below if you haven’t watched it yet.
Ok, now that you have the frame of reference, let’s get to it.
SN: There are already tons of think pieces being shared all over the internet so if you haven’t seen one yet, you will soon. Read them. They’re interesting. And you will consider it time well spent.
Back to the post…
While there’s so much to unpack in this one song – and the accompanying visuals – for this post, I’m going to focus on that which is relevant to my audience of busy moms.
Here are 3 reasons I’m so here for Beyoncé’s Formation:
(and why you should be too!)
1. “I like my baby hair, with baby hair and afros.”
For anyone who’s ever struggled with the fro, THIS is for you – including my beautiful daughter Madison who’s hair is as dry, kinky, and coily as it comes. I keep telling her that her black is beautiful and there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with rocking her fro. Maybe now that Beyoncé has signed it into law, she’ll actually believe me.
Above that, it’s all about confidence… did you see the look on Blue Ivy’s face? There’s no telling her that she is not all of that and a bag. Love. It.
2. “I like my negro nose with Jackson 5 nostrils.”
Be PROUD of your features. Especially the ones that others try to put down or mock and call names. This is everything.
One of the biggest struggles we have as a people is self-love and acceptance. And not that on the surface “I love myself” while secretly hating our bodies and doing ourselves harm. I’m talking about that fierce MY BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL love for self. Big nose and all.
3. “Earned all this money but they never take the country out me… I got hot sauce in my bag, swag.”
Be true to yourself. Money doesn’t change who you are, at least it shouldn’t. It may change where you live, how you dress, who you hang around… but YOU should still be YOU. No matter what.
This also relates to being confident, secure, and loving yourself. Because when you do, there isn’t anything else you can be but you. Trying to be something you’re not – ewwww. Just can’t see it happening. Being your true self in all situations is all you should know how to do.
Bonus: “O.K. ladies, now let’s get in formation, I slay.”
Encouragement for all of us women out there to do our thangs and SLAY. Get in formation. Play to win. Go big. Work hard. Show the world what you’re made of. Stop hiding. Be a black Bill Gates in the making. Don’t get eliminated.
All I can say is, YASS!
Closing thoughts…
I’m a strong believer in being a confident mom, so you can raise confident kids. They won’t learn what you don’t show them by modeling it in your own behavior.
It’s wonderful that we have so many role models and great examples for our daughters to see what it means to own who they are and rock the world… and if you’re not quite there yet I hope you’ll consider getting into formation.
Because when you don’t slay, the world suffers. Each of us has something special to offer and it’s your obligation to dream beyond your wildest dreams, and pursue your desires.
Confession: I haven’t shown the entire video to my tween daughter yet. I’m just not ready for her to look at Red Lobster in a new light. Especially since we’ll be celebrating her 13th birthday there this weekend. *awkward*
BUT I will be discussing the various aspects and messages of the video and showing her some clips just to reinforce the fact that she should be confident, love her features, always stay true to who she is, and get in formation.
#Islay <3

I want to hear from you!
What do you think about the messages in Beyoncé’s new Formation song & video? Please let me know your thoughts in the comments section below.


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I am so glad that Beyoncé is using her voice and her celebrity status to encourage everyone to get out and vote. This is the most important election we’ve ever had. There are states that lack the protection of the Voting Rights Act for the first time in fifty years. Life-changing circumstances can occur at both the state and federal level. People died in order to ensure that every eligible American can vote. Your voice and your vote count. Make sure that you and everyone you know are aware of voting eligibility requirements. Like President Obama says, “Don’t boo-vote.”
I have been a fan of Beyoncé ‘S since she was in the group Destiny’s Child. I wish that she would do more movies like ‘Dreamgirls’. I applaud the fact that she is using her celebrity for so much more than self-promotion. I wish more famous people would take a cue from her and raise awareness about important issues, and try to make the world a better place.
I wish people in other professions can drop their latest work like that. Boom!
interesting
Love her new album! It’s so artistic and meaningful.
What a great video and I agree you should be proud of who you are.
I love Beyonce and the whole Lemonade album. It’s just amazing.
Prove to me you’ve got some coordination!!!
Love this as usual because I love all of your blog posts. Love Bey, too! 🙂
I love Beyonce and everything she stands for. She seems like such a strong capable woman. Even recently with the rumors about cheating, she shows us that hey my life can be hard and i can struggle with that but i don’t let it decrease my own self worth.
Love her! She is so talented!!
Great post! Very empowering!
I saw her in super bowl halftime and LOVED the song!
I would love to see Beyonce. I think she is a very wonderful performer and like all of her music.
Beyonce is always full of surprises. We are beautifully and wonderfully made by God. He gave each one of us special gifts. I agree, everyone needs to be confident in who they are and use those gifts. Always remember Black is beautiful. God doesn’t make junk
You just have to choose to see the positive in things sometimes!
I love the positive message! Thank you for sharing with us.
Hmm, I love Beyonce & her music. She most definitely slays. As to some of the other comments here: I admit I also had the thought “but she doesn’t have ‘natural’ hair.” But I also thought “doesn’t she have the right to wear her hair any way she pleases & not be considered somehow less black.” And then, because I’m white, I always come back to the thought most white people have on subjects like this: do I even have a right to have an opinion on this??? LMBO!! Just a little insight into my mind…
I love Beyoncé! Great post!
I am not a Beyonce fan, but with that said, I appreciate what she had to say and the message she was trying to get across.
I have great respect and admiration for Beyonce and her talent.This song is just further confirmation of that!
She makes some great statements. I’m glad your daughter liked the part about hair.
I like your commentary about Formation.
Liked Beyonce’s half time show, but she seems to be getting a “bad girl” image…I shall see for myself because her tour takes her here to Edmonton, and We already have tickets
This girl has it going on. Love her new song!
I really like this song this song gets alot of flack but i actually love it
This was a great article. You made some good points. We should all be confident in our own skin.
I am not a Beyonce fan but great post 🙂
I’m all about some Miss Beyoncé. She definitely came out swinging with this one.
Yonce nailed it. People need to focus on the message- it’s powerful
This is a great breakdown of the song. This is the same thing I got from it. You can see the confidence oozing off of Blue Ivy.
I like the video! Thanks for sharing!
I’m not a huge Beyonce fan, but I can’t deny the fact that she’s a great performer.
Its very cool to see each other’s perspectives on this song! Beyonce is a boss indeed!
Nothing. These messages were already out there. She put on a onsie, said what’s been said and people went crazy. Shrugs.
I loved her message! She really did that. I also loved the superbowl performance. As someone who usually gives Bey the side eye, she did well.
I’m a HUGE Beyonce fan, so of course I’m totally here for Formation. I loved the video and the message. It shows that we should embrace ourselves and our features.
LiveLifeWell,
Allison
I just love her and I am her biggest fan. She should run for President!
I love the opening of this post “Beyoncé just Beyoncé’d us” because she sure did and I was here for ALL of it. I loved the video, the message, the Super Bowl performance all of it. 🙂 Thank you for sharing your insight. #blackgirlmagic
Siobhan
http://www.befreeproject.com
I loved how Beyonce came through this weekend. In true Bey form she shut it down and served us a whole bunch of messages in the process!
I have heard alot about this but I had not seen it I really enjoyed. Thank you so much for sharing
I liked the song and the video. It was nice to see her finally stand in her truth publicly. I also like my baby hair with baby hair and afros. I turned the one feature I disliked as a kid into a brand as an adult. Doesn’t get any better than that.
I’m second that, Kemkem.
I have mixed feelings about this to tell the truth. I like the 3 points and one should embrace what we are given and should be proud of. On the other hand, l don’t think l have ever seen Beyonce with her natural hair. If you compare pictures of when she was younger, she looks like a completely different person to me.
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True that… Hopefully, Blue will stay natural and proud.
This is the one thing about Beyonce that disappoints me and that’s why I’ve never been her fan (but I’ve enjoyed some of her songs alot). Her hair. Not saying she should wear it natural, but at least let it be her natural colour. For all the years she’s been in the public eye she’s always kept the same fake colour. It’s brave of her to let her daughter be free and natural and proud. I wish she would be the same herself. I like the video, I think it’s a long time coming.
GREAT POST!!!! It’s such an affirming song, I love the homage she plays to the beauty of natural hair.
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Thank you!
Agree, my daughter smiled so hard upon seeing Blue all proud with her afro… I love it!